When people tell a plus size girl that its her weight that’s keeping her from finding a good man, its a lie. Lie, lie, lie! And this why. Truth be told, even though their are men out there who more than prefer a plus size beaut’, it’s just not as evident. And I didn’t say common, I said evident. I’ve just been informed by one of my male friends, something I honestly already knew.

This is basically a synopsis of his statements:

Honestly, I like big girls. I do. I have since I was younger, but when you’re around your friends or in school, it’s almost taboo to admit it. Like there was this one girl I thought was gorgeous in high school, but I knew if I acted on it or told my boys, they wouldn’t get it. Now that I’m older, I dont give a fuck! If you carry yourself in a respectable manner, who cares about your size? I don’t. 

That was probably the most honesty I’ve heard out of someone in a while. It was something I already knew, but it just felt good to hear someone admit it. When you’re in high school and you’re a teenage boy (and I’m only assuming because clearly, I’m not a dude) it must be hard to admit when you find someone attractive that your peers probably wouldn’t. And I blame that on an immature, dependent mind. 

Honestly, since I’ve been out of high school, I’ve actually talked to and had a ‘relationship’ with two people from hs. And both told me, straight up, back then they were ‘nervous’ to talk to me. And I’m sure not nervous as in they thought they’d get rejected, but nervous as in “what would my friends say?” I didn’t need them to explain it any further, because I already knew where that was going. But it’s sad, it’s really sad.

So now that I’m older, and I’m attracting and attracted to an older crowd, I see more and more people with a mature mind. A mind of their own for that matter. I’ve matured as a young woman and I’ve never felt better. 

Dudes, if you like a girl, and size doesn’t matter, a mature man can admit that. Boys go around judging girls on weight and immature ‘things’ of that nature. And in all honestly, if we’re judging on weight, I’ll tell any little boy in a heartbeart, pull down your pants down, and lets judge that, kay? (That’s my little comeback for these little boys…it seemed appropriate, but I’m sure I wouldn’t do that lol)

But the point is, if you’re comfortable with yourself, and you find a women who’s the same, pursue her. If she carries herself like a lady and loves herself, why should you judge her or second guess your own interest because of what your friends or society thinks?

I’m not worried about finding that ‘special one’ and I’m surely not worried about finding that ‘special one’ based on my size. That’s not an issue. I’m an adult and I attract and am attracted to adults who have a mind of there own… I’m good.

just another rant from yours truly…